Wow, this article really resonated with me. I've never been told I have an avoidant attachment style, in fact at times I've been all 3 of them.

When I was in high school, I had a lot of this behavior. I would crush on someone, and if they did eventually ask me out I would freeze, make an excuse, and run away. Part of it was that I was intoxicated with the fantasy more than the actual reality of a relationship. Another part was somehow I didn't believe I actually was worthy or deserved something I wanted. Part of me felt anxiety over the fact I could actually be with someone I wanted, and somehow that wasn't woven into my reality. I didn't deserve these things. Another part of me didn't really understand myself and what I really wanted at all. Different people seemed like a good crush for me on paper or in fantasy, but I wasn't actually present with who they really were and if I wanted them for them and not for some other reason inside of me.

Either way, it was super confusing. I'm glad your article gave more clarification. Now days dating is a lot more straight forward, due to online dating. It's clear that I like someone and it all feels much more black and white.