We agree here. I don’t think anyone’s sexuality should ever be stigmatized.
I don’t consider “men, but not trans men” to be a sexual orientation however. Nor would I consider “women, but not trans women” to be a sexual orientation either. I do consider it to be a preference, and that’s fine.
The thing is, trans people are just as attractive, desirable, and fulfilling partners as anyone else in the human race. I think a lot of people don’t know that. I think a lot of people have in their mind what trans sex is, based on assumptions of genitalia, and I’ve honestly found it to be way more fulfilling and different that I’ve been told by society. I found them to be wonderful partners after a lifetime of programming that they’re not even in my own gender category and therefore taboo for me to date. And there is a lot more genitalia diversity than people realize among trans folk. So if that’s what standing in anyone’s way, well there’s many exceptions to that rule to.
It is of course possible to support a group of people and be against hate crimes against them, but never consider them potential dating partners. People should not date trans people to prove their not phobic.
It is an interesting argument
“Yes, I support— — — - blank rights and I don’t think they should be murdered or harmed, and I can have loving relationships with them. But of course I would never kiss one because I am gay/straight/ect and I believe that person isn’t an actual man/woman/ect and I assume they have this specific type of genitalia.” I suppose we all feel this way about cis straight people or people in the other gender we are attracted to.
I’m not shaming anyone. It’s true though, there are some wonderful trans people out there, who may even have the genitalia a cis person wants, but will be filtered out of the dating pool because people have it in their minds that dating a trans person won’t fulfill them sexually, or will threaten their own sexual orientation or who knows what else. And me saying that isn’t the same trying to change or shame anyone’s sexuality. It’s pointing out an underutilized group of people in the dating pool.
