Ugh. I'm a teacher, and I've had students who have one name and pronouns at school, and another with their parents. I really hate the idea that I'm somehow expected by parents to rat this out.

It's not my issue.

If a kid tells me they want to go by the name Luke Skywalker, so what. I had student once ask me to call him Cash because he thought it was a cool nickname. Sure, I don't care. Jut sit down and learn your lesson. Whatever it takes. I'm not here to argue about your gender, it's not my business. I'm here to teach.

Then when parents get mad, saying "No my child is this gender, and this is their pronouns, please call them by that... and it's different than what the kids wants." I'm just like, this is your issue between you and your child, don't drag me into it. It's not my fault your child wants to go by she/her and you think they're a he/him. That's your problem not mine. Please keep it out of the classroom. This student wants me to call them this in my room, I'm going to call them that. You don't think they should be called that, work it out with them, it's not my job. I'm not a gender expert, a family therapist, or here to resolve your issues with your child and their gender(s), I'm a teacher with state standards I have to fulfill and I don't have time to deal with your parent/child/pronoun/gender issues. If they want to be called Annette, I will call them that. If you don't like what they want to be called, work it out with the child and let me go back to my damn job. I'm calling kids by their preferred name because that's what they're asking me to do out of respect. If it's truly the wrong name/gender identity for them, they'll eventually get tired of it and move on.