Dude, if you want to leave, just leave. Why is it your wife’s job to ask you to leave? It’s not. It’s not her job to read your mind, figure out you’re miserable, and then ask you to leave. Who knows why she won’t ask you? Maybe perhaps she has better things to do. Are you trying to withhold intimacy and cut yourself off so that she will make a decision for you? Why the hell is it this woman’s job to force you to do what you actually want to do? Why are you assuming she is somehow weak or scared because she won’t do the very thing you’re apparently to scared to do yourself? Grow up, figure out what you want, and take responsibility for your own life, stop expecting your wife to do everything for you, including asking you to leave. Seriously! Some article about a whinny man who is sad his wife hasn’t figured out he wants to leave her and he wonders why she hasn’t broken up with him yet and how badly he will have to treat her before she figures it out? Really? I guess wives have to do everything for their husbands. I honestly thought this was a sexist trope, an exaggeration of men being dumb, but this article proves the point.
Maybe ask yourself all these questions you aim at the wife.
Instead of asking “why hasn’t she asked me to leave?” Maybe ask “why don’t I leave?”
Instead asking “does she not want to look like the bad guy for asking me to leave?” Maybe ask “am I staying and waiting for her to tell me to leave because I don’t want to be the bad guy who ends things?”
Instead of asking “doesn’t she see how miserable and sad I am on vacation, and how things need to end” maybe ask “why am I ruining a perfectly good vacation by being sad? I should end things!”
Instead of asking “why hasn’t she noticed I’ve cut myself off emotionally” maybe say “I’m cutting myself off emotionally, maybe I should end this marriage?” I mean after all, these are YOUR emotions you are talking about here, not hers. They are your responsibility, not hers. This entire article is about how you feel, you have no consideration for what she might actually be going through, just your feelings, your mistresses career, and guesses on why she won’t do your own work of leaving a marriage.
Dude, it’s your decision to leave or stay. Stop with this “she’s the pragmatic one” and take responsibility for your emotions and wishes.
I feel sorry for your new girlfriend, and your wife. Stop being a man-child and take responsibility for your choices and emotions. Stop expecting your wife to know your choices and make them for you, and then take the heat for them.
