This article needed to be written, and needs to be read. I am myself polyamorous, and I stay the F away from unicorn hunters for this very reason.
Often they are couples with an entitled man/boy who hasn’t really thought this stuff out, and sees ENM has him having two slices of cake and none for his girlfriend/wife, unless her get set is done strictly for his please (he likes to watch).
Many such men fail to realize that monogamy was actually invented for men, who wanted to secure a partner. Often in dating we women have more options, period.
Also such couples see queer women such as myself as there for a good time only, and don’t want an actual connection.
I literally got a tinder like once from a couple who were on vacation in my area and wanted “a hot unicorn for the weekend” as like part of their tourist package or something.
I saw a tinder profile that summarized the situation well
“Unicorn hunters, hire an escort, bisexual women are not your play things.”
I love this quote.
It’s at the point now where I don’t date any men, and try to avoid them all together. Me, my partners, and my metamores are all women or non binary folk. There are some great men who are ENM, there really are. But there are so many entitled boys who think polyamory is about double dosing while none for their partner, I just don’t want to run into them.
Plus, these peeps don’t really think through threesomes. They can honestly be quite awkward and weird. They aren’t two girls cock worshiping at the same time.