There are many wonderful things in the world other than the male gaze that makes women feel desired. Desire is not all men.
For one, many women like myself enjoy being desired by other women. I have sexual relations with other women, and women don’t always like the same things as men in women.
Also, for many women desire can be quite platonic with other women, or even a feeling inside one’s self. For example, I often will dress up in a way that I think is beautiful (no male input needed) and shines with my internal light. Almost sort of a picture of myself that I desire, and then I get to live out my fantasy. I wouldn’t say it’s being the prettiest girl in the room, it’s not a competition or about outdoing anyone, but feeling, looking, and loving myself the way I desire for me.
There have been days when I desired looking like a beautiful yellow flower, and I wore a lovely sundress that made me feel as such. My insides shined like a sun, I love feeling like a flower, it’s my inner desire. I like expressing the sunshine inside of me. Also I like it when others, women included, see the light inside of me and appreciate my inner sunshine, and it has nothing to do with sex or being wanted sexual. A person can be desired for more than sex or a sexual relationship. I like feeling beautiful and fulfilled, it’s my desire and I desire what I look like.
And yes, it does feel good when other women desire me as well. I don’t think I’m better than them, I just have my own inner beauty I feel good about. I’m very desirable.

It’s very male gazy to assume desire is determined by men wanting women, women desire to, and not desiring what men determine.