Thanks for your response Emmanuel!
I agree that trans women are not the same biologically as cis women. However, I do consider them as women. Gender and biological sex are not always the same thing. That may seem like denial of reality to people. But the existence of trans people proves it to be true. There exist people who are biologically one sex, but actually a different gender. I think that’s okay. For me it’s not about denying reality, but realizing there’s another complex layer that we don’t see before. Biological sex exists of course, and trans women are biologically male of course. But there does exist gender as well, and gender isn’t always the same as sex. I think this is an additional truth, and it explains the existence of trans people. Understanding and accepting that gender and sex are sometimes not aligned, is accepting a truth, and accepting entire group of people exist and are human.


I can totally see how others won’t agree with me. The author just called me racist , she may be right, as a white person I believe I should always ask if I am racist and not reject the question.
When I was 13 I remember learning about the holocaust. I was horrified by the genocide of Jewish people. I remember m teacher telling us that the real lesson we needed to learn was that genocide can happen in our life, and you can be complacent in it and not even realize it. How an entire culture and country can find ways of destroying a population of people. My teacher encouraged us all to look around and find our modern days Jews who might be slowly being erased. Of course one example I found was black people. I read about and saw pictures of lynchings, which were disturbing. I read about the Jim Crow laws. The current school to prison pipeline, underfunding of schools with black populations, and the general hate. But ive always kept my eye out for ways our culture subtly or not dehumanizes others, and I do see it with black people. In some ways it’s gotten better, in some ways it’s gotten worse.

About 20 years ago, I saw a very emotional display at college. It was a set up of tombstones with the names of trans people who murdered specifically for being trans. There were hundreds of them, and it really shocked me. On each tombstone was labeled how that person was murdered in a hate crime. One seen was about a a trans woman who simply had a heart attack, paramedics were called and when they were treating her they realized she was trans. When they saw she was trans they stopped working on her and stood around laughing at her, while she died on the street in front of them. This horrified me. Every year people, sometimes even children, are murdered for being trans. There’s even that defense, called the gay panic defense designed to lessen sentences of people who murdered trans people in hate crimes. Other attempts on trans people are more subtle, like the one I believe this author is making. I knew a trans woman for example who used the men’s bathroom. One day a man in there noticed her and attempted to rape her. She was able to get out, but sense then has been afraid of using any bathroom.
I guess I’m now in a state where I look closely at who society is erasing and how. And I refuse to take part in it, and call it out when I see it. If that involves refining terms, like woman and man, so be it. If it fights a subtle genocide, I’m all in.
I believe the existence of trans people shows that there is another layer of gender in addition to biological sex. Accepting this other layer is not being in denial of biological sex, but realizing there’s another element as well.

Here is a list of trans people murdered for being trans in case that’s of interest to you. It always shocks me. I will do everything I can to stop a group of bc people from being erased including expanding my thinking.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_people_killed_for_being_transgender

Thank you for your lovely comment. Best of luck to you. It might be racist that I am limping all oppressed people together, I know they are all different and have different needs and don’t identify with each other. But genocide is genocide, and it’s wrong regardless of who it is happening too.