Thank you for your thoughtful response as well. I can tell you've thought a lot about this.

However, if a woman is trans, and there are no gender labels, how is she suppose to be honest with dates about being trans if she can't use the label trans? How can she even communicate that she is trans if there isn't a label for it?

Clearly gender labels contribute to gender dysphoria but most trans people I know experience dysphoria in a wide variety of areas, not just social or societal. Keep in mind that dysphoria exists in multiple realms, not just in society. There is social dysphoria, physical dysphoria, institutional classification dysphoria, and others..For example, I know several trans women who have dysphoria around their actual bodies, irregardless about what society says about them. There is social dysphoria, about one's gender in society. There is also physical dysphoria. I know trans women who can't stand the fact they have male gentallia (hence surgery), facial hair, facial features, etc. They've told me even if they were on a planet all alone, with no one present but them, no attributing these features to the male gender, they would still feel massive discomfort looking at their own bodies. This dysphoria exists outside of social constructs. Few women, who have trans surgery actually show their gentallia to others. They don't get such surgeries to show to others who they are, it's purely discomfort with their own bodies and biological sex characteristics. I have to disagree with that Gender dysphoria exists purely from society's gender labels. Though I do agree if we soften the labels a lot it would be much world for everyone. I think we can both agree the strict gender roles of society are very toxic. However, I think labels can often empower people, and are needed. There is a difference between toxic labeling, and erasing an identity of a person. I think we can agree we both want the former, I'm mostly concerned we avoid the latter.