So for me, I knew I had some nuerodiversity, but like you I didn't really care to find out the details. There were so many warning flags around it as a kid-it was impossible to ignore, but I mainly just embodied a growth mindset that helped me improve and became very accomplished. I had many copping mechanisms and had figured out how to thrive in the world around me.

It all came crashing down one day while exercising. I was doing my usual martial arts class, when I totally froze and couldn't move. I had totally disassociated from my self and was watching myself from above. This kept happening, for about two years. I would be exercising, then bamn, I was out of my body, couldn't move or do anything.

When I could move, I became so enraged I wasn't a safe training partner and had to leave the martial arts mat/floor. I totally stopped me from exercising, which is something I need to do.

I brought it all up to my therapist, we delved in, and eventually I was diagnosed with PTSD, and would have severe flashbacks, episodes of disassociation, depersonalization, and violent attacks. It was terrifying, I honestly thought I was going to hurt someone in my just regular exercise.

I did a lot of deep work in therapy, dug right in, and asked myself what was going on during these moments of disassociation and where it was coming from.. It turned out, from journaling on my own, it came from school. Freaking, school. Not some war zone, elementary school. It all started when I had to teach in a traditional school environment (historically I was in private schools).

This made no sense. I didn't know of anyone who was traumatized in school, so I tried to figure out why.

I got diagnosed with face blindness(as you may have), this was no shocker to me, ADHD, Autism, and dyspraxia. Apparently my sensory issues with autism are very intense, well above the mean for even autistics. My attempts at doing well at School combined with various misunderstandings from my nuerodiversity lead to an absolute hell, that no one seems to understand. What was mildly annoying for others was horrible for me with my sensory issues. It explained a lot toxic behaviors I had engaged in just to survive and cope.

For me a diagnosis was helpful in understanding why I have PTSD and am working on healing it. When I tell people this, they think I am being "overdramatic" but I wouldn't have sought out a diagnosis if I didn't have this trauma that floored me, a normally functional adult, so badly. I was diagnosed with PTSD, and I am working on healing myself and understanding why some things that others find mildly annoying are fucking hell for me. And I'm trying to heal.

I totally get that you don't find a need to get diagnosed or examined, and that is fine for you Mr. Penguin, but please don't begrudge others from obtaining a label that helps me heal as I need it. If you don't want the label, that's fine. But I'm not being stupid and dangerous as the title states, I am taking care of myself. Confronting my nuerodiversity was very hard for me, and yes, we all have variation as you mentioned, but it helps with the cultural gaslighting to explain why my experiences are not typical. Most people don't have PTSD from going to school, and think I'm being dramatic for having that. I'm not, I'm just wired such that these things effect me differently, and I'm learning to accept that.