Okay so I’m cis, but your article spoke so much to me because of working with kids. I am a teacher, high school, and a number of my students are queer, a few trans. People generally assume I am straight. I have literally been pondering this exact question, should I come out my students? Should I come out to just the queer ones? What is best for my students? Is it good for them to know they have a queer teacher to normalize queerness? Or is that tmi and my conservative students will tell their parents and complain? One year I had one student who loved to talk about how she was queer, in the middle of class, she kind of had a chip on her shoulder about it, and seemed to really want to express her queerness, but also implying that I was straight and potentially homophobic. One day I just made a comment about my own orientation and she stopped. That seemed to be what she needed, maybe she was just testing the waters to see if I was safe?

I’m a math teacher, it’s not exactly a relevant conversation to just out myself to them.
Truth be told, I don’t like coming out at all. Why should we assume people are hetero or cis? Ugh. F”@$ ing straight people don’t have to come out, why should I?