My partner is trans, and has been in charge of other employees, though I don't think she ever mentioned it really coming up in her job, with the occasional misgendering which she quickly corrects. However this article reminded me of another phenomena I see happening to her, and I admit I am guilty of myself.

So recently she's been in a bit of a disagreement with her family over some things. I was venting about it to a friend of mine, who promptly asked if the fight was about her being trans and if her family ever accepted the fact she was trans. That's a whole other issue, she was really arguing with her family over funeral arrangements of a relative- her being trans wasn't really relevant.

One time I mentioned to my therapist an issue she and I were having and he immediately jumped to maybe it was a problem around her being trans, which it wasn't. I mean isn't she allowed to have other issues in her life other than being trans? Trans rights are important, but like come on. Her entire life does not revolve around being trans, and yet people are so quick to jump to "Is it because she is trans?" for any reason. She didn't sleep last night- must be because she's trans. She doesn't like avocados, must be a trans thing. It's getting pretty silly.

Sounds like because your trans you were assumed to be the best equity, inclusion, and diversity person. .