It’s truly a very honest essay about your state you are writing here. Thank you for your vulnerability.
I know it seems all that common, that everyone seems to have a partner, it can feel like, why not me? What’s wrong with me?
But despite what appears in the world around us, I’d honestly say finding a partner who truly loves and accepts you is indeed a miracle, not a right. I know there are tons of couples all over the place. But the happiness that love brings, and the amazing happening that two people love, complement, and are happy together, truly is such a wonderful thing, it can’t be anything else but a miracle.
I think the first lesson is how to already have enough love in your own life, enough self-love, plutonic friend ships and love of family members, to fill your life with. Then yes, to peruse a partner is healthy, but to have a security that you are enough for your self in-terms of self-love will bring a security that will help you out. It’s normal and healthy to want a partner, but expecting that out of a life , believe it or not, is not realistic. Finding love is honestly a miracle despite how common it appears. It’s not something that happens because a person is good or bad or a jerk or not. It just happens. Yes it’s a good idea to make sure you’re not a jerk, this repeals potential mates, but it’s more about if it just happens. Love isn’t a game or a result of certain actions or behaviors or something you earn. It’s honestly luck in many cases. I wish you best of luck! Finding love is a miracle, not a right.