It’s interesting you didn’t mention these stats for the male, how many people he went out with vs how many he ignored. Also, just because she dated someone, doesn’t mean she ignored the rest. It could be some of her matches ignored her, not the other way around. Furthermore, from your own data, she was on tinder significantly longer than the man. The time involved is important here.
Also, given your argument here is about the top 80% here, maybe you should grade the “hotness” or desirability of both these people. This argument only works if they are the same level of attractiveness to other partners. Did these people have jobs? Are they equally interesting? ect. To avoid such errors, perhaps considering a larger sample size, like not using just one man and one woman, maybe a larger group of people and look at the average results instead of picking one sample. Given a group of maybe 200 women and 200 men what is the mean of swipes left or right for each group? What’s the average number of relationships or hook ups for each group?
I’m writing all this as an actual mathematician. I think your point will get across better if you consider using a better sample size.