It’s definitely an interesting argument, but I don’t know if I agree, food for thought. I think it depends on the situation.
For example, I went on a date once, it was a great date and we set up another one-over zoom it was during pandemic. At some point I realized my date wasn’t wearing pants, or underwear and the camera slowly started moving downward. It was very gradual. I couldn’t tell if my date was doing this on purpose, of if was just an accident or if they were ‘handling themselves’ and wanted to live dick pick me.
Either way the whole thing made me so uncomfortable I essentially ghosted them. I did not want to talk to them again. I did let them know via text I wasn’t interested, but didn’t say why or provide any details. I don’t know what they were doing, but I never want to see them again, and I shouldn’t have to interact with them again and that should be okay. It’s very possible it was an honest mistake, but I feel like they were if anything abusing me by nearly live-dick picking me and I don’t want to have a horrible conversation explaining that.
I mean if someone gives you the sceeves on a date, you should be allowed to cut them off and not forced to interact with them, if it’s just to explain why you’re not into them. I’m not going to explain to a person who I’m afraid of or uncomfortable with why I’m not into them, they aren’t even safe to go on a second date with let alone talk about these things.