It took me 40 years before I was diagnosed with adhd. My adhd is apparently very severe, in the top 2% of severity of symptoms. I started on non stimulant medication, and it’s been a life changer. If more people had been supportive of me getting evaluated younger, I would have gotten a lot further in my life and career than where I am now. But I was always fed that bs of suck it up and work harder, which I did. I have a great work ethic. But it’s extremely unfair that I had to work 4 times as hard to get half as far, and for so many years people didn’t understand and criticized me. Really destroyed a lot of my self worth.