It reminds me of a YouTube video I saw where they were comparing videos of two different women being harassed. One was repeatedly saying to a guy, at a bar, "No, I don't want to talk to you, please go away" There was a flood of comments of people saying how if she didn't want to talk the man talking to her, that's fine but she could at least be nice. about it. There was nothing un-nice about her behavior, expect maybe her tone was rather direct. Still she was berated for "being rude." Then the next video showed a guy who kept talking to another woman, who was very "nice." She was smiling, but said "No, we really just don't want to talk to anyone right now (she was in a group of women) please go away" and there were tons of comments saying she wasn't being direct enough because she was smiling, thereby leading guys on and not being clear. Please note what they were saying was virtually the same. Why do we ignore what a woman says, and instead criticize her for how she says it? Can't we just listen to people instead of just telling them their asking wrong? No means no, no matter how you say it.