"It is people who REJECT this ranking of mates who are the most miserable in dating because oddly enough they tend to reject it for themselves"

this is interesting. I've definitely seen men, specifically incels do exactly that. I've seen men who think themselves very unattractive get angry at attractive women who don't want them.

I personally have totally ignored the entire ranking system. Instead I tend to go for a person who is beneficial to me psychologically. My first partner was a wonderful person I was with for 19 years, but he was considered pretty low on the SMV. He was very short, bald, fat, and did not make very good money. But he was good for me and what I needed because he understood me as a person and supported me and shared my interests. My current partner is considered very low on the SMV also, she is 6 foot 3 and a trans woman. However she is a wonderful partner to me and I'd take her over any supermodel. So I'm someone who has rejected the SMV, in my partners, but I'm quite happy. I want my partners to be good people who support me, build me up, make me happy, and are nice people. There are plenty out there with low SMV value. By the way, I've been told I rank rather high on the SMV, more so when I was younger and with my first partner. But I really don't care.

Still you make an interesting point here. I have seen people complain and then expect a double standard there.