Is this satire? I honestly can’t tell. Well if it’s not, best of luck to you in your marriage. I mean we all gotta figure out how to make this world work for us in our own way.

I am recently divorced, it wasn’t really a choice for me to stay. I did everything I could to save my marriage, I wanted to stay married. But somethings are just not within my control.

That being said many people stay in unhappy marriages for a long time. Hell my own parents are about to hit 50 year mark! Of course I don’t really know the details of the marriage, I shouldn’t judge…but the point is, at some point any long term marriage will be unhappy I figure.

What I do like about this essay is, in truth, it points out the privilege of marriage. Sometimes being able to stay married, is a privilege. I guess if you got it, go ahead and hold onto it. When I first saw the cracks in my own marriage and quickly got us counseling, we ended up savoring what we had for another 6 years (19 years total). I did everything I possibly could to save my marriage, and when it ended it was both a loss to grieve and a relief to be able to live again. Divorce ain’t easy. Staying married isn’t easy either, it requires a lot. I guess enjoy it while you can. Hold on as long as you have arms to do so. If that’s your choice, more power to you. Accepting the issues in a marriage and staying in is very much the key staying married. I hope things develops and you and your husband develop happiness between you two, but if not, enjoy none the less.