Interesting questions!
As a feminist, I learned at an early age that I was responsible for own happiness and that I was not guaranteed a (male) partner in life. It was very much part of the “I don’t need a man” slogan. I learned to accept myself and my (potentially lack there of) attractiveness and just went about my life. I don’t think men are conditioned the same way, which slants the dating market. Men are raised to believe they need a woman and will get a female partner, while women are raised that we don’t need one, but it might be nice if one happens. This leads to a uneven dating dynamic and much communication breakdown and understandable frustration. -another writer wrote about this in-depth and it’s what I’ve been long thinking.
I would think then MGTOW would be the answer to this problem, and on the surface as a feminist, it sounds like a great idea. If you’re frustrated by the dating game, stop chasing after women, just go and live a life that centers around you, and your needs, and your wants and desires. I think when men do this, ironically their datability increases dramatically! Many women don’t want a man who “needs them” but rather a developed, independent person who enjoys spending time together with them. Going your own way involves a great deal of growth, self care and focus, and independence.
But I keep hearing little snippets that may indicate that MGTOW isn’t fully about this, and how they are more about misogyny and other things. If men are in fact going their own way, why would they even care about women? I don’t really understand, I’m also not a part of the manosphere so I’m just totes confused. Maybe someone will come a long and comment who is. Is MGTOW really about men forgetting women and doing their own thing? Why then would they be against gay men?