In the video, I find it very ironic that I often hear how men are visual and don’t like various traits about women’s bodies. Don’t like fat women, don’t like women with _____, over and over again where we many women develop eatinding disorders, and spend millions on beauty care products. But this dude feels is angry that some women don’t like him because he is too short. He also thinks he is entitled to being with a woman, and somehow thinks all women are somehow connected to it when he says “women in general!” while yelling at some lady who just wants a bagel.
Growing up as woman, I was often very angry, but told my anger hurt others so I had to hide it. I have a lot of natural anger in me, but learned how to control it, redirect it, or just express it in a private matter so that others’ don’t find it disrespectful. I think women and other genders are born just as angry as men, but aren’t allowed to have our anger, while that’s about all that men are allowed to have. Further evidence that even though patriarchy puts men on top, it still is harmful system to them. I think it diminishes men’s humanity when we pretend they aren’t complex emotional people who feel a wide variety of things. Instead it just tells them to get angry and dominate.
Recently I invited a good friend of mine to my belt test at a martial arts school I train at. I realized after talking to them, they explained they are scared to go because they don’t want to picture me doing something they consider ‘violent.’ They were scared of seeing me do martial arts, something that isn’t even angry, just assertive and powerful. I know for a fact this a friend I can’t ever let me see be angry. Just me doing basic self defense, showing strength, and skills around those things intimidates them and somehow threatens societies interpretation of femininity for me and other’s comfort around me. This is probably why such places often have less women, because our surrounding cultures are less comfortable with us being un-submissive.
I think we are all born angry, or have experienced it at a young age, but patriarchy limits what emotions we can share with others and it’s dehumanizing to everyone.
