I want to say a ton of things about this article, but I don’t really have the words yet. Just one sums it up for me.

Beautiful.
This article is beautiful, and I’m glad you wrote it. I’m white, I am doing my best to be an ally. I’ve longer believed the real thing is to take an honest look at myself. No, I never wanted to be racist, no, I never consented to learn racist behavior. But when I slow down enough and pay attention, and stop thinking, I can’t help but realize it is there. It was taught in a hundred different ways that I never noticed, and it’s there still. I need to make my best conscious effort to stop such behavior every day. Last year I watched a series of clips from one of the most racist movies of my country’s history, the birth of a nation,to study the different ways it taught racism.
While I’ve spent my entire life trying to be an anti racist, I saw so many subtle cues, tropes, and techniques in the movie that taught racism. Those same cues and tropes I saw in my own life growing up and in the world around me, even though I raised to believe they weren’t about race. I was taught racism, then told it wasn’t racism, then there was massive victim blaming of black people. That is the work, to look at ones self and see what we do to participate in racism. It takes strength and security, but that’s what it takes. I’d rather admit my shortcomings if it makes me uncomfortable than continue engaging in a racist behavior.
This article talks about it very beautifully.