I see your concern Pablo. As a woman, and a survivor of sexual assault, I do not want men in my bathrooms and private changing areas. And I hear your frustration about being labeled with a slur just stops the conversation. It should be noted, that there is a BIG difference between cis men who are acting, and trans women. Any man who is infact pretending to be trans to harrass/attack women should definitely be kicked out and suffer consequences for his behavior.

A trans woman is not simply a man who is dressed up like a woman, they are noticeably very different.

Still, I see the gray area here where people can worry about cis men taking advantage of the situation by the spectrum area of gender presentation. How and when someone decides to present their gender is their own business, so then a cis person may argue they're really trans when they are not.

I wrote another article I suggest you check out called "I Use Public Bathrooms with Trans Women" where I address the fact that I do not want men in my safe places such as bathrooms, locker rooms, ect, but am fine with trans women.

I reguarly share bathrooms, lorckerrooms, and other spaces with trans women, and have done so for years (so far about 6 years now). Not once, have I encountered a cis male pretending to be trans to enter the locker room.

Actually in fact, in most places, trans women have actually been using the women's restroom, lockerrrooms, and other rooms for decades, and the instances of cis men attempting to gain access to such spaces is very rare.

I can see why it's a concern, but in reality, it's not something that happens very often.

Another very important point though, is the alternative we are providing.

I agree that it is not safe to have men in my restroom. I do not want to share a restroom with men.

But then what of trans women? If we ban them from the women's room, where are they supposed to go the the bathroom?

I know a trans woman who used the men's restroom for a couple years, until a man attempted to rape her while she was in there. She as a woman, was not safe in the men's room. She was no more safe than I or any other woman would be. I wouldn't want to be forced to use the men's room, it would be a serious safety issue. So then we have a question, should we punish trans women for behavior cis men might do? Should trans women be forced to use the men's bathroom and possibly be rapped or assaulted because of a behavior associated with cis men?

Should trans women suffer health and bladder problems because of the actions of men? Who should have to pay the price of men's behavior, trans women? Do they deserve to be rapped because of what men do?

I do see your point about how cis men may take advantage of the system, and that's not okay and they should be punished. But forcing trans women to be in situations where they are potentially rapped and harmed, is a solution that harms innocent women. The reality is, after years of sharing such spaces with trans women, this isn't that big of an issue here. And the response shouldn't involve harming trans women for what cis men might potentially do.