I really wanted to hate this article. I’m a feminist, but after reading more of it, my heart goes out to you a bit.
Romantic relationships aren’t a formula, they are very much just plain old luck. You’re right, it is a numbers game, and rejection is inevitable. You just get rejected over and over again. I humbly suggested to view rejection differently to make it easier. Each potential relationship is a journey, an adventure, that will probably not lead to what you’re looking for. But it’s a fun experience to try. Dead ends are inevitable, so just start again appreciating the experience.
It’s also helpful to not look at women as a monolith. Yes, you are having difficult finding a romantic partner, that’s not because women are flaky, it’s because romantic relationships are complex, weird, and don’t make sense. It’s not women that are the problem, romantic relationships are. Please don’t blame all women for this, that will only make this situation harder, women will sense your frustration and run for the hills.
If this is the first time you haven’t been able to get what you want via hard work and dedication, consider yourself lucky! Believe it or not, there are lots of things in the world that aren’t so simple.

For me, after I graduated from a prestigious university with a STEAM degree, I struggled to find work despite all the hard work I did and doing everything right. I checked all the boxes, had lots of experience and qualifications, but somehow people kept steering me in the direction of teaching. I kept hear “you’re so sweet and kind! You’d be so good with children! You’re such a gentle soul, I bet kids love you!” Despite studying an in demand stem field at a prestigious university, no one would hire me and I was steered into bring a teacher because people saw me as a nice lady. I now teach mathematics to advanced students, but am constantly pushed in the direction to teach preschool because I’m a woman. I hated that I sacrificed so much and worked so hard just to be pushed into a different career I did not chose, but I did my best anyway. I have seen countless male colleagues with less experience and qualifications get promoted for no reason. I felt a similar hopelessness I hear you having here. It seemed no matter what I did, I just couldn’t get a good job despite doing everything right.


Romantic Relationships are messy. They don’t just follow a list of checked boxes. They are complicated. But it’s not because women are messy, that’s just how relationships can be. Don’t blame women for this, it will only make more women run from you. You are entitled to your feelings of frustration. I wish you the best. Enjoy your life as it is, and hopefully ms right will show up.