I often wonder if I’m bi, I can’t really tell anymore. I’ve given up understanding my sexuality for now. I just call it queer and forget about it.
I was however in a monogamous heterosexual relationship for 19 years. Now I’m happily with a woman and poly and no interest in men.
That one man, I think I was just happy I found one I could be with.
The first time I slept with a woman, I told a group of friends of mine, all queer women, and one of them, rather rudely said
“Ugh, I am so done with that-trying to convert ‘bi-curious’ women.” I responded that I wasn’t bi curious, but she just gave me a look about how she knows better than me and almost like I was appropriating queer culture.
I was in a long term monogamous relationship, not straight.
To be fair, I did pass as straight and enjoy many of the privileges there of, but it’s not fair to assume I was straight just because I was faithful to one person.

Reading this article made me wonder if I am biphobic. I gotta say, I like that my partner likes women exclusively. Some part of me feels threatened by the idea of a bi girlfriend. So strange, I clearly need to see what’s that about.