I loved this read.
Most of the women in my family were pregnant on their wedding days.
I was raised to be responsible with birth control, everyone around me was getting pregnant.
Flash to age 31, my husband and I at the time had stopped using birth control for 3 years and no pregnancy.
The problem ended up being wow sperm, not me. But he didn’t want to know that, he refused and fertility testing or treatments while I given the green night. He figured if we had fertility issues that meant no children. Years later we ended up divorcing for unrelated reasons.
2 months ago I had my first baby, at age 40, through sperm donation. I want more, but I don’t have much time left.
I also never thought I’d be a charlotte, I thought I’d be a Miranda. I prepared for accidental pregnancy. This isn’t the way women in my family have a baby, it feels so strange.
I’m now dating a woman, who also wants to be a mom to our daughter. We’re a very happy little family now. Funny thing, after I gave birth and in all of my obgyn appointments my doctors bring up birth control, and ask what I’m doing to prevent another pregnancy. When I tell them it’s not a problem they don’t believe me and remind me I still can conceive while breast feeding. Then I explain I’m in a lesbian relationship and my child is a product of sperm donation.
Funny how I’m able to have more children while with a woman than I was with a man.
It’s just different when there are fertility issues.
A friend of mine asked me if my pregnancy was planned, which I feel is a rather rude question. But she didn’t know if she should celebrate with me or grieve. The I learned to just start the conversation with “good news!” So people know.