I hear point here. I personally am a woman born with a condition that makes it difficult for me to lose weight, lipedema. I live a very healthy lifestyle, but will always be fat due to my lipedema. I see your argument, but I don’t think you have any understanding of gender dysphoria and what trans people go through. Trans people are very much aware that they are not cis people and that biologically they very different. They are aware that their bodies are not cis even after surgery. They do these things to help alleviate dysphoria, not to delude themselves into thinking they are biological cis women. They know the difference. They just feel less trauma when they look at themselves, they’re not pretending to be cis.

I’m honestly really glad you agree that it’s good to just call them by how they want to be called.
I agree you don’t have to accept their gender, just be respectful.
However, the author of original article here is calling them men, and that’s pretty rude. Even if you don’t accept someone’s gender, it’s still just basic respect to call someone the wrong thing. If you don’t accept their gender, that’s fine, but still just show basic respect.
It’s clear you do, so I’m glad.
If someone calls someone else an offensive name, I’m on it.

It’s a little weird you went straight to vaginoplasty, and started talking about that. I suggest not thinking too much about trans genitalia, it’s kind of creepy unless you’re sleeping with a post-operative trans woman.