I have found when asking people out, you have to do all the work. Come up with the place, time date ahead of time and ask them out. I've dated a lot of people who won't make a plan unless I set it.

Then, after the first date, I either ask them out again, let them ask me out, or make it clear I'm not interested.

I had one date who I had to do way too much work for, despite how interesting and attractive she was. If it's to much work on your part, it's not worth it.

If I want to go out I initiate the entire thing, taking their interest into consideration, and they can decline or accept.

Now I date women, and am queer. God only knows how men would respond to all of this, whatever weird gender games are out there. But probably some guys will like it, others will be weird. Just move past it and onto the next one. There will be more men, just move past the idiots acting stupid and playing games. Ugh. Of course I just don't date men and that makes everything easier.