I got really excited when I read the title of the article. I like punk rock, and I support trans people. But as I read your article I realized you might not really understand what trans is…but maybe I can still just call myself punk rock anyway, but truth is I’m just to big of a nerd lol.
I first want to point out, I know a number of trans people who have graduated college and regularly pay rent and are still trans. In fact most of them didn’t transition until they were financially independent. I do know a couple of youngsters. I can think of at least 10 well functioning adults who pay rent and are all grown up. My own partner for example is 41 years old, a successful software engineer, and home owner, and she and I just had our first child last year. She’s every bit as trans as she was last year. I like to think she and I are some form of rebellious but we’re actually just boring people. I’m a math teacher and she’s an Eagle Scout and former air force. She’s very rule bidding, she’s not trans to reject society.
I have another friend who is gender fluid, and has a successful career as a social working. Last year they finished their 2nd masters degree while working full time. They are 38 years old and have been paying rent and working since they were 19.
People don’t really chose to be trans. They chose to transition, which is a choice, but for most it’s a necessity to live and function.
Let’s try this same argument on other groups that don’t chose to be the way they are but rely on interventions.
What if maybe disabled people in wheel chairs are punk, and if we stopped getting angry at them they would stop using their wheel chairs and chose to start walking again?
Or maybe it would encourage them to get physical therapy so they could walk again?
What if black people who are anti racists the new punk rock? Maybe if we ignore them they’ll stop fighting for equal rights and grow up?
What if cancer patients are the new punk rock? Maybe one day they will grow up and stop using chemo therapy and expecting everyone to accommodate them?
Trans people don’t chose to be trans out of some sort of rebellion, they are born that way and transition so they can live and function. Transition is something they need, not want.

But then there is a other question, maybe trans people themselves aren’t punk, but perhaps their supporters are? Perhaps I’m punk for supporting the idea gender identity and sex are not the same? After all you do make a good point this does go against established beliefs. And let’s face it, trans rights sounds cool these days, far right liberalism and all. I like to think I’m cool.

But the truth is, when I look at why I support trans rights, it’s because I’ve known some really wonderful people that I care about, who wouldn’t be here if they hadn’t transitioned. I first realized one of my close friends was trans about 15 years ago. They hadn’t transitioned, but they had attempted suicide. They went through a period of about 5 years where they were hospitalized 3 times from suicide attempts. They weren’t a drama queen or a toxic person, but they were having a seriously difficult time, and were living a double life as a man. After they transitioned they got better and became much happier. And yes, they have been paying rent the last 15 years and are now a 38 year old grown up and all that.
Truth is, I accept trans people because I’m empathetic and care about people, even those who are rejected by society. Just because society doesn’t accept them doesn’t mean I have to reject the
.I have to much of a heart. Maybe that’s the punk rock of empathy.
Maybe I am a punk rock for being a cis person who accepts trans identity and the concept that gender and sex are not the same and don’t line up, but in truth I think I’m just a big nerd with a big heart who cares.

I enjoyed the article!