I feel like I could have written this article.

It was in marriage counseling, round 2, when I finally realized I couldn't be with that man. He also was stuck. After I left him, he asked if there was any hope of us reconciling, I told him I would go to therapy with him. He dragged his feet. Eventually he told me this:

"I don't need therapy. Therapy is for you, you like therapy because you need it, I'm fine."

In therapy I realized he saw me as someone to use who had no needs and existed entirely to do things for him. I couldn't believe that my 20 year marriage had turned into that.