I broke up with mine, years ago, but always felt rejected by her. I got shaken up recently because I happen to be at an event where she also was. I don’t think she recognized me, maybe she even forgot we dated. I loved her, she enjoyed sleeping with me at first, but after a while her interest just moved on and she seemed annoyed at spending time with me.
One thing I know though, is regardless of how much I loved her, I didn’t like how she treated me back.
I deserved to be loved back.
I deserve to be appreciated.
I am no one’s guilt trip, obligation, or burden.
I’m a wonderful person, who deserves to be loved back. There are countless people in the world who are willing and capable of loving me back, I don’t need to waste time on those who simply tolerate me because the sex is good.
I broke up with her, moved on to my Barry 2.0. We have a child together and just bought a house. I love my new partner, I love our life together, and I love that she appreciates and reciprocates my affections.
But I still think about my ex, who didn’t love me back. I think about texting her.
I saw her at a pride event last week (we’re all queer). I was there with my new girlfriend and baby. I got closer to her in the crowd, and made a point of making out with my new girlfriend in front of her. I don’t think she saw me, or recognized me, or even would have cared. Ex girlfriend moved on since me and was way into her ex anyway. I look back at my actions last week and think to myself
“Damn that was immature! That’s not me! Why the fuck am I acting so petty? What do I have to prove?” Clearly I have issues. Making out in front of an ex is so stupid. WTF is wrong with me?
So this article really helped me today. I love my new partner and am so happy with my life now and that I moved on. I love my girlfriend and the life we have made together. I deserve to be loved back. I just wish I wasn’t so weird about my ex. At least I’m not texting! But the urge is still there.
What is it about rejection like this? It’s like I want to prove she was wrong for not loving me back. Love, It’s not a game or a prize, I know this but still act different. We just weren’t meant to be, but I take it so personally. I love the fact I am getting everything I want, and I fantasize she will look at my life one day and see all that she missed out on. As if she will regret not loving me, as if it was a choice she has. I know it’s not, some people just aren’t met to be, but that doesn’t stop me from acting crazy.
Thanks again for this article.