Hun, well that is interesting. I actually was not talking about my perception of men in dating. Actually I never mention dating at all in my response, nor do I believe it (dating) was even in the article. I was speaking about the way my partner perceived women and how alienating it was.

However clearly you are making a point on how women perceive men in dating relationships. I don’t know if I agree that women see men with this dichotomy of the creepy insecure vs the charming narcissist, I certainly dont think of men that binary way. Nevertheless I’m sure there is a woman who does, probably many, and I do agree that this is also a harmful dichotomy way of viewing men, perhaps the word is stereotype. That is also an alienating illusion that drives a wedge between men and women and is also alienating. I would agree with that. I guess the connecting theme here is how men and women wrongly perceive each other and how that is harmful.