Great points!

I do like my ADHD, though it can very frustrating for me.
My autism however, parts of it I just enjoy, other parts I hate. It’s often really hard for me.
I’ve been told to not say “I have autism” but rather “I’m autistic” because autism is more of my personality type rather than a pathology. However, although it’s a big part of who I am, I don’t identify with my autism.
Last night my girlfriend affectionately tapped me on the shoulder and I didn’t see her coming and I screened from the unexpected sensory hell. She looked shocked and hurt, I was in agony but couldn’t do anything. That doesn’t feel like me, I don’t identify with that. I appreciate some of my autistic traits, but I don’t identify with them. I don’t feel they “are me”. It’s especially hard because of many of adhd and autistic traits were just written off as personality traits. Yeah, me not knowing where my keys are and desperately trying to find them because I struggle with focusing enough to know what I’m doing, that’s not autism, I’m just being a cute manic pixie dream girl! Or yeah, my sensory issues that make 85% of clothing unwearable to me, that’s just me being cute! What a great sense of style I have! Or me not knowing what the teacher said in class because I struggle to pay attention, that’s just me being sassy! How cool! Me spending and extra 3 hours on hw because I can’t focus enough to do a 20 minute assignment, that’s just me having fun!
I do like parts of my ADHD, or rather I’ve lived with it my whole life, I don’t consider it “me.” It’s not my personality, it’s not my choice or “who I am.” It’s just hear and I’m doing my best to just function.
I feel like your article just explained that’s okay.