Great article! I think Poly men get a bad rep. As a polyamorous woman, I won't even date men! (and sometimes I'm even attracted to to them too!).

That sad and awful truth, is that there a lots of awful men (not all, some, but the are LOUD) who give all men a real bad rap. So many "poly" men do weird things like

-just looking for a unicorn to use a sex toy in their relationship

-looking for a unicorn so they can get turned on by watching their female partner get lesbian action

-looking for a unicorn so they can have double the love while not interesting in sexually pleasing either.

-just few poly as free unattached sex

-see poly women as just promiscuous opportunities without connection

-Insist on OPP

-Think poly is all about their needs but don't consider there needs of the partner(s)

-have double standards, they want a partner but aren't comfortable with their female partner having an additional partner, etc.

None of this is bad per say, but it's definitely not what I would want. NOPE.

Yet I know there are some truly good poly men out there, I don't want to have to wade through countless men listed as above. It's real unfortunate because then all men get a bad rap, but how are we too vet? IDK. Poor men, I hope things get better. Great advice though!