First of all, not all trans people have the same genitalia they were born with. Only wanting sexy with a particular genitalia is one thing. Not wanting to date a trans person without knowing the circumstances is another.
Second of all, it’s nothing to me if a person closes themself off to potentially fulfilling relationships. I’m not making it a big deal. Honestly, it’s more for me. You’re the one who seems to have a problem with the phrase “missing out” by comparing me to a homophobic person. As a gay woman, who only sleeps with other woman, I disagree, I don’t think what I am doing is comparable.

I’m not trying to convert anyone, and it’s their loss if they wish to exclude someone from their dating pool because they dont consider them a man or a woman, that’s their loss not mine. I’m just pointing them out.


To say that to date a trans person is akin to changing ones sexual orientation, is very much implying that trans person isn’t that in that gender group.
It’s like saying, I don’t date men, because of my orientation, therefore I don’t trans men because, well they must not be real men, regardless of their genitalia.
It’s not gay for a straight person to date a trans person in the opposite gender category. It’s not any less gay for a gay person to date a trans person on the same gender category as them. Saying that it is gay for a straight man to date a trans woman is pretty much saying trans women aren’t women, its transphobic because it’s operating under the assumption trans women aren’t full women and the fear being with one implies a different sexual orientation. Me saying that people are missing out by not dating trans people period, is not the same as saying someone should change their sexual preference because loving a trans person doesn’t change anyone’s sexual orientation, unless you don’t actually consider than to be that gender.