Can you elaborate what this is exactly? I date trans women myself, and am currently in a serious LTR with one, as a cis/trans lesbian couple. I might be what you are referring to as “trans attracted.” But I am honestly lost with what you are referring to as being attracted to “trans ness.”
I am attracted to women and not men. I see trans women as a subset of women. Personally I have found dating them no different than dating cis. Im confused what you mean by “trans ness” and as an attractive quality. I will admit, generalizing trans women tend to be wicked good at cuddling, and there are some beautiful trans women out there. But I would like to understand what this “trans ness” quality you speak of being so attentive and specifically nailing it down. Especially since you mentioned earlier it’s not about genitalia. Are these “trans attracted” men just as interested in post-opp trans women?