As a polyamorous woman, this story was very disappointing and sadly none of it was about polyamory.
This story was about non-monogamy, as evidenced the way you brought up polygamy, polyandry, and swingers.
I’m glad you did bring up the sexism of the free love movement.
You seem to cast poly people in a light of selfish cheaters who lack the ability to commit or have deep meaningful relationships. I know there are some people who polyamory to just fuck around, I stay clear of them. But personally I have found many loving, caring, good, committed relationships here.
One thing you might explore in the poly world, is the term compersion. It’s a term I never heard before, and it’s a big part of why I’m poly.
No, I don’t have a kink around seeing my partner be with someone else, I don’t sexually get off from it. But I love the way my girlfriends face lights up when someone asks her out. I love the way she gets all happy before and after she goes out on a date.
Don’t get me wrong, I love it when she shows me this same excitement. But she looks so happy and anew before a date and it fills me with sunshine. I want her to be spoiled with love.
I brought up being poly with her early in our relationship, the first month, she was hesitant, but gave it a try. Oddly I have no interest in dating anyone at the moment, or even in our 3 year relationship. However it feels good knowing that if it happens it happens and I’ll be okay if I want to date someone else too.
But mostly I like how happy and special and loved she appears to be.
I just feel better knowing we are open, and I really like meta, they’re really interesting and fun to know!
Please, poly is different than non-monogamy, your viewing everything with a hetero lense. As a woman in a lesbian relationship, the dynamics in poly are way different than just a male fantasy.